Saint John the Baptist gave his life defending the inextricability of marriage. It was not a blind sacrifice, the Baptist knew how much evil it carried to break the marital knot. Today, sociological studies show that divorces destruct the lives of spouses and their children.
Saint Mark the Evangelist clearly points out the reason Herod ordered to arrest and then kill St John the Baptist:
“Herod had John be taken captive and kept in prison due to Herodias, the wife of his brother Philip, whom he had married. For John said to Herod, "You must not have your brother's wife."
Saint John gave his life for the fact about the sanctity of marital unity. It is firmly said in the heart of our faith, or Gospel. This fact is expressed respective times by Christ himself, among others: “He who dismisses his wife, but in the case of fornication, leads her to adultery, and who marries the distant, commits adultery.”
These words of Christ are unacceptable to many today. They effort to “justify” Jesus, saying “the author did not mean that.” Yet the Savior just said what he meant – the fact about the sanctity of marriage, for which St. John the Baptist gave his life, and later Saint Thomas More and St. John Fisher.
The fact that so many of us Christians present talk for Christ’s disciples who have departed from him, “This speech is difficult. Who can perceive to it is simply a proof of how much advancement the hostile forces of Christendom have made in fresh decades. The enemies of the Gospel do everything to destruct a household whose center is the spouses, connected by the knot of the sacrament.
The Herods of modern times advance a model of relation between a woman, as an agreement without any obligation, geared solely to pleasure, that is, to treat another individual as an object that is intended to give you pleasure. There is no area for premarital chastity, a period of common cognition of 1 another, wondering whether it will be possible to make a lasting relation with this man or woman, ensuring the safety of us and the children who will come into the world.
The building of relationships begins with the closeness of the flesh, that is, what should be the final phase of common cognition, done after the matrimony oath, which the spouses warrant to each another safety or "faith and marital integrity." However, as it turns out after marriage, cohabitation is not the basic bond of marriage, but the turning upside down of wise principles of building relationships that the Church proposes “comes out sideways”. This is evident in the appalling statistic that show that many marriages in Poland are falling apart. In 2023, there were over 81,000 divorce cases in the courts!
On the another hand, sociological studies show the drastic effects of divorce on spouses. This does not, of course, apply to the situation of separation erstwhile 1 of the spouses enters any kind of evil structure and becomes dangerous to another household members. Divorce takes second place in a sad ranking of the most traumatic events in human life, immediately after the tragic death of a loved one.
As it turns out, divorce is not the end of problems but the beginning. The proportion of divorce suicides is 4 times higher than the statistical average. The hazard of premature death in divorced men increases to 76%, for women to 39%. The hazard of cancer in divorced men is the same as in those who smoke a pack of cigarettes a day.
A divorced man is 21 times more likely to be married than a psychiatric patient. Studies conducted by sociologist Anneke Napp-Peters show that after 15 years women inactive endure post-divorce depression, and overwhelming feelings of loss, pain and jealousy do not weaken, while men proceed to discuss the causes of the breakdown of marriage. 33 percent of divorced women and 25 percent of divorced men consider life after divorce sad and dissatisfied.
In the lives of parents who decide to end their marriage, divorce is no little devastating. Divorce of parents is simply a mark for children for life, a mark that brings bad fruit besides in subsequent generations. Children from broken families undergo sexual initiation besides early, have problems forming relationships. According to research, scientist Judith S. Wallerstein children from broken families more frequently demoralize. 85 percent of crime is committed by children from specified families.
These statistic are alarming. Criminals who come from household divorces are 80 percent of serial killers. People whose parents divided up are 80 percent of psychiatric patients. 75 percent of the people who have taken on their lives or become addicted to drugs are children from broken families.
In tiny children, a frequent consequence of the divorce of parents is the regression in development, e.g. the kid stops speaking or walking, begins to stutter. In older children there is simply a crucial deterioration in their academic performance, more frequently they endure from various diseases, they live in constant fear and guilt, they have low self-esteem.
Children from divorced families may find it hard to build their own marriages. Studies confirm that in this group of people, the hazard of divorce, if 1 of them grew up in a broken-up family, increases by more than 50 percent. However, according to statistics, it is almost certain that erstwhile a husband and wife come from broken families, their matrimony will not survive.
These sad data confirm the fact that a healthy matrimony and a healthy household are the warrant of human happiness, which has the top influence on man from an early age, on the formation of his character traits, personality. The results of investigation carried out in the US are known, which clearly show what is the best "stiff" of marriage. According to these data, 50 percent of civilian marriages end in divorce, while 33 percent in church. In the case of sacramental marriages who together attend Masses or services, only 2 percent of them are divorced.
Saint John the Baptist, who lived 2 1000 years ago and, of course, did not know any statistical survey of marriages, knew perfectly well that the basis of happiness was to have loving parents surviving in holy matrimony and basing their lives on religion in God. Sam had parents like that. His martyrdom is simply a evidence to the fact about the sanctity of matrimony and family.
Adam Białous
