Prime Minister, you can have your elgiebets out of your head

An online commentariat frequently accuses us (and the full left) that we deal with irrelevant matters for most society, like LGBTQ+ rights, and we don't get our noses out of PKiN. I dare say that Poland can be seen even worse from the Sejm, but I checked on my own, outside of left Warsaw, whether the mantra about not having Poland for queers is real.

I went to a household wedding with my partner, remembering that most of my relatives are conservative Catholics from tiny towns and villages who do not hang rainbow flags in the window. But no 1 stoned me or even gave me a look like, “What are these freaks?” We got support and acceptance that I didn't anticipate and the wildest dreams. Especially since a fewer weeks earlier at a akin – this time a burgher organization of higher spheres – a Warsaw female declaring progressive views with distaste, stated that “she does not know specified people as us”, so she asked us quite a few awkward questions about common, non-hateric life.

A small earlier, I had spent time under consideration, where 2 women holding hands were of interest, but not hatred. In a tiny town in Mazowsze, I was in turn hosted by a female who drove a father-in-law from home for years erstwhile he stated that her daughter surviving in a relation with another female was a sodomite.

Of course, on the basis of my own experience, I cannot clearly find who is most or least in Poland homophobic. And I'm not trying to play ludomania or warm the image of any Catholics due to the fact that there's nothing heroic about being human. But still, my intuition tells me that the worst with empathy is in the Village, and subsequent public opinion polls clearly indicate that more than half of the society advocates the introduction of partnerships and even matrimony equality.

Queer Wedding: More Than Ritual

I share a private to prove that hard convictions about who actually cares about gayos are breaking into everyday life, in which the capital elites make me want to hide in a closet, and people with little cultural and social capital give me the motivation to look for an engagement ringing for my girlfriend, and despite the fresh swearing that I will never take a wedding, due to the fact that it is an eminently antiqueer circus.

How much does household support change in your head and heart? You see, sometimes everything. At the same time, I know that until I can legalize my relation in Poland, I can abandon my dreams of having my own wedding with even my closest relatives, due to the fact that the logistically and financially ceremony abroad is beyond my reach. Since I can't even afford a decent proposal so far, I had to quit my office in Political Criticism and look for a occupation in the Corps.

I can besides guess how much it costs my household to explain to strangers from my orientation and concern for my safety and future. Of course, I am aware of my own privilege, which did not deprive me of, for example, shelter or full ostracism, as is frequently the case with another LGBTQ+ community people, but I besides know that many and many of us are sick of being embodied into just 2 objectifying categories: rejects or victims.

We most frequently want a average life, equal treatment, and the chance to take work for each other. This is by the detached from reality of the confusion of the rulers defends us the law, by which they endure not only those who are in non-heteronormative relationships, but their families and friends.

So this is not just about the anticipation of having large wedding parties, or even about jointly accounting for taxes and inheritance, but about protecting the most precious human capital: strong and healthy relationships.

So erstwhile not only the spokespersons in their own case, but the parents and grandparents in the "All families are important" campaign, they say that they want to live to see the vows of their queer daughters, sons and grandchildren, they mean much more than the ritual.

"LGBT+ can no longer wait. all day of hold is simply a real hurt, pain, and feeling of large injustice that our loved ones face. all day they wake up with fear that in a situation of illness or another random occurrence, they will not be able to make medical decisions and aid their partner in time. They are parents who fear that without appropriate legal protection, they will not be able to look after their children. They wonder if they will gotta leave their homeland to make their families safe" – they compose the participants – close to the rainbow community – in a letter open to the Prime Minister and the ruling coalition.

You can. sign it and you, demanding the immediate introduction of the Association Act. I encourage you to do so most, and if you are curious about the motivations of the appeal initiators, supported by the run Against Homophobia, the Love Association No Excluded, and We, Parents, and the Rainbow Families Foundation, read them stories Or add your own.

Maybe it will convince you that together we will build a better past of Poland, due to the fact that – as 1 of the mothers active in the task said – after 1989 something bad happened in our country. The systemic transformation focused so much on economical freedom and consumption that it allowed us to forget freedom in being human. This is taking way besides long.

Poles stopped getting excited about monosexual couples

If I met my girlfriend as a 19-year-old, and Donald Tusk wasn't a liar, we might be celebrating the 14th anniversary of our partnership today.

That's precisely how old the Prime Minister's first unfulfilled promise to introduce a bill recognising same-sex couples is. The first law to safe single-sex couples that went to the Sejm is 22 years old. But it is known – specified "progressive" things are only in... almost all European country, as well as in Taiwan, South Africa, Australia, Chile or Costa Rica (I would be able to mention for a long time).

We have the right-wing dehumanization of LGBT+ people and the blackmail from the pseudo-democratic side, according to which all 4 years it is adequate to vote for Donald Tusk so that in a moment, the law in Poland will change. And over and over.

Poles truly stopped worrying about the existence of single-sex couples, due to the fact that specified themes even in Polish telenovelas are almost as old as the series itself, in Dancing with the stars They've all watched the tango of 2 guys, and in a fresh season, they'll see a lesbian. If Polsat's ratings were not falling, possibly Tusk wouldn't have lost his support, but if he had punched a coalition table with his fist and stuck an equal minimum – a law on partnerships, or preferably a law on matrimony equality?

For now, he can afford another patheticly opportunistic statement: “I have received assurance from ministers that they are prepared to present a common way to yet scope the final. However, he will not satisfy all.” Who precisely is Tusk trying to satisfy? Political right-wing concrete that doesn't know the difference between ovulation and the period, and wants to have something to say about legislation?

I do not even want to effort to realize this, since politicians of smiling, pro-European Poland, who are facing a supposedly superstitious darkland, cannot afford to draw conclusions from public polls and heads from ass seated on government seats. But the Prime Minister sometimes leaves the capital. He never met a gay man or a lesbian parent outside?

Or do we gotta admit that the Prime Minister is simply a cynical coward erstwhile he can't enforce a coalition that governs a substance as simple as gay and lesbian rights, but he can be a ruthless hegemon when, for example, an 18-year-old Ukrainian female needs to be expelled from the country, tried to torpedo an global agreement on forest protection, or supported genocide by Israel?

I don't believe that flirting with fascism Donald Tusk considers it crucial dignity and humanity, but if he cares a small about the voice of queer parents of children who have fallen for his song more than erstwhile in the election, then he should halt looking at canned PSLs and show who's truly in charge. And above all – to yet get the elgiebets out of your head and admit to those who say that most people don't care who lives and sleeps with. erstwhile you give us these unfortunate partnerships, we will yet focus on the economy and another “really important” things.